Hearing the words “I’m pregnant” when you weren’t expecting them can stop you in your tracks. Whether you felt it was coming or caught you completely off guard, it’s normal to feel unsure about what to do next. You might be asking yourself: What’s my role? How do I support her? What should I say?

The truth is, you don’t have to have it all figured out right now. But there are some steps you can take to support your partner and take care of yourself, too.

Step 1: Take a Deep Breath

It’s okay to feel overwhelmed. An unplanned pregnancy is a big deal, and your feelings matter. Before jumping into the next steps, take time to process what you’re feeling. Talk with someone you trust—a friend, mentor, or family member—and give yourself space to think through what this means for you, your partner, and your future.

Being honest about your emotions can help you approach the situation with clarity and empathy. Your partner needs to know you’re taking this seriously—and that you’re in it with her.

Step 2: Show Up and Stay Involved

While you may not know exactly what to do, just being there makes a difference. Go to appointments with her. Ask her how she’s feeling. Offer to help where you can. You don’t have to have all the answers; you just need to show her she’s not alone.

This isn’t just her journey—it’s something you’re both walking through. Being steady and supportive can go a long way in helping her feel secure in whatever decision she’s facing.

Step 3: Learn What Your Options Are Together

There is a lot of information out there, and not all of it is helpful. That’s why it’s important to get accurate, clear answers about what’s ahead. We offer free and confidential consultations where you can explore your options together or separately.

Our team is here to provide medically accurate information about abortion, adoption, and parenting. We’re not here to pressure you but to ensure you both have the facts and support you need to make a confident decision.

You’re Not Alone

A pregnancy might not be what you pictured, but you’re not in it by yourself. At Pregnancy Help Center, we’re here for both of you. We’ll listen, answer your questions, and help you take the next step forward.

Make your free, confidential appointment today. You don’t have to navigate this alone—we’re here to walk with you.

Pregnancy Help Center of Central Missouri does not provide or refer for abortions.