When someone you care about shares that they’re facing an unexpected pregnancy, your response can shape how supported, grounded, and hopeful they feel in the days ahead. You don’t have to have perfect answers; you just have to be present. Here are a few meaningful ways to walk with your friend through a moment that may feel overwhelming.
Start by Listening Without Judgment
Your friend may be processing fear, confusion, or even a mix of emotions that shift by the hour. Let them talk at their own pace. Instead of offering immediate advice, simply listen. Statements like, “I’m here for you” or “Thank you for trusting me with this” can create a sense of safety.
Avoid Jumping to Solutions
It can be tempting to push a certain direction or share strong opinions. But your friend’s situation is personal and complex. Support them by asking gentle, open-ended questions, “How are you feeling about everything?” or “What would help you right now?” Empowering them to think through their options helps them regain a sense of control.
Offer Practical Help
Stress can make everyday tasks feel heavy. Consider offering support such as:
- Driving them to appointments
- Helping them manage schedules
- Sitting with them while they gather information
If your friend wants professional support, remind them that the PHC of Central Missouri provides free services, such as pregnancy testing, ultrasounds, education, and confidential support, without pressure or judgment. Having a trusted resource can make decision-making feel less overwhelming.
Be a Steady, Calm Presence
Your friend may be worried about how others will react. Let them know you’re not going anywhere. Check in regularly. Encourage rest, nourishment, and honest conversations. Remind them that they don’t have to make every decision today.
Respect Their Privacy
This is their story to share. Keeping their confidence builds trust and protects the emotional space they need to process their next steps. Only share information if someone’s safety is at risk.
Most importantly, reassure your friend that they are not alone. With steady care, respectful conversation, and access to reliable resources like PHC of Central Missouri, they can navigate this season with clarity and confidence.